Happiness and the Art of the GFE

The art of the GFE can be compared to traits of the art of the courtisanerie. In Italy during the Renaissance, the original courtesans were known as cortigiana onesta. These cortigiana were ‘honest courtesans’ in that many were regarded as intellectuals. They were well-educated, worldly and often maintained other careers. A highly refined GFE is an independentcompanion with traits and characteristics similar to original courtesans.

Psychology of a GFE

There are different layers within the girl friend experience that vary from escort to escort and from culture to culture. A GFE in the truest and deepest sense hones a relationship with her client on a longer term basis. She realizes that contentment is a state of mind out of reach for some gentlemen. Therefore, his happiness becomes her focus. She specializes in all aspects that characterize a true relationship zoning in on the desires and emotional needs of her client.

Is the GFE fantasy or reality?

In most cases, the GFE experience offered by an independent escort is pure fantasy. She spends an hour or two or three with her client and takes him on a euphoric ride to ecstasy. At the conclusion of their engagement, they part ways and he rides a sensual high of fulfillment with memories of her for days to come. He is surrounded by a halo of satisfaction, smiling from ear to ear. The GFE experience offered by the companion or courtesan is expressed on a longer term basis. Time spent together spills into reality. She becomes more of a confidante, friend and even travel liaison. He comes to rely on her in certain ways further defining her role as his companion. She fills a void in his life, sometimes many. She completes him, bringing a sense of happiness that in some relationships can last for years. However sacrilegious this may sound to convention, his relationship with her may facilitate the continuation of his marriage and therefore the structure of his inner family. See More...

When a Hobbyist Wants to Marry an Escort

When a dating engagement is carefully measured, considering all aspects of compatibility, the stage is set for explosive chemistry. Such is the scenario when a hobbyist pursues the company of acompanion or courtesan who excels in the girl friend experience. Most likely, he is not looking for permanent love. But if he seeks emotional and/or psychological fulfillment or restoration from loneliness, his heart becomes vulnerable. Factor in his escort’s physical splendor and charismatic personality and he becomes a bulls eye target for amour.

While this may appear as a scary question due to the nature of her work as a companion, what man really knows the difference in the beginning of any love relationship? Romance and matters of the heart involve powerfully blinding emotions that can skew the good judgment of anyone.

Is it really love or just infatuation?

There are no guarantees in any relationship and if there were, insurance companies would bank! There are men and women alike who come from multiple divorces, dysfunctional families, broken homes and even abusive backgrounds. Someone, please reveal the ideal formula for a marriage that does not end. Even childhood sweethearts with storybook families end up divorced. Who is to say that thehobbyist/escort romance cannot tie the knot and prevail indefinitely?

Is he headed down the sugar daddy path?

There is a chance that if she stops working in order to devote her time exclusively to her man and their relationship, her income will vanish. Both parties must check within themselves for genuineness of their involvement. Further, supporting a partner is a financial and emotional responsibility (regardless of his net worth) which can burden the relationship if not handled openly and with clear intent. However, ifhobbyist turned fiancé accepts his role as main breadwinner, they are in love and escort turned future wife agree, then it is not a sugar relationship. See More...

Decoding Your Fantasies

Picture the hobbyist in a tepid marriage where sparks have long disappeared. The kids have flown the nest. He loves his wife and does not believe in cheating yet cannot end the marriage due to the tangled nature of their history (mortgages, finances, friends, relatives, grandchildren, etc.). He finds himself looking at other women in ways he never did.

Fantasies provide a necessary escape from the here and now. As long as we do not become too rigid or mistake our fantasies for reality they can be entertaining, distracting and arousing. Ooh la la! The possibilities are endless, especially in the hobby. Let us explore a few broad topics that touch (no pun intended) upon your innermost secrets.

Fantasy of the perfect love

Your days are filled with fantasies of a beautiful woman longing for your attention. You yearn for her company and attention. Rather than risk the complications and potential drama of meeting another woman in a conventional manner, you seek the company of a courtesan. Manifested, this situation is more commonly coined as the girl friend experience (GFE). The perfect love can be realized in the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship when taken to the extreme between hobbyist and companion. In either scenario, finding that ideal match comes as close as to intimate perfection as humanly possible. While the situation may be frowned upon or even immoral in the eyes of some, your marriage stays intact while your emotional and physical needs are met.

The secretive, more perverse side of your desires

While City Girls’ independent escorts tend to be deliciously ‘strawberry, vanilla swirl with whipped cream on top’ if you will, there are those gentlemen who seek ‘triple chocolate peanut butter fudge with nuts on top’, if I may. This is a sweet and sassy way of referring to the kinkier thoughts that inhabit the minds of many (yes, many). Light roll playing, perhaps a bit of fetish or dress up might flight your fancy. Now, while City Girls stops short of classic BDSM, there are those spicy independent escorts who love to kick up their heels with some gentle Domination (call her your Domina or Goddess). See More... 

Psychology of a Healthy Escort

A woman chooses to become an independent escort for a variety of reasons. For some readers, the first thing they think of might be the social stigma surrounding a woman who is an escort. Other gentlemen may read these words with nothing but fond memories of service providers (as some like to be called) who are incredible women in their eyes.

We thought it would be interesting to explore some of the more common traits of an independent escort from a non escort and non hobbyist point of view.

An independent escort comes from a troubled childhood

This conception is probably one of the most common in conventional society and recognized among some hobbyists. However, one must consider that if we took a hard look at the psychological profile of every non escort in their profession what we may learn. Through the media we have been exposed to priests who are pedophiles; politicians who betray their wives, families and those who revere them; people who murder their spouses and/or children. The list goes on. The point is that most individuals in the general population do not come from storybook backgrounds. While an independent escort may have grown up in a dysfunctional home, she became an adult capable of making rational decisions. However, social spotlight glares on the profession due to the intimate nature of her work, opening her to harsh criticism.

A professional dater hates men

The most obvious pre-requisites for becoming an independent escort are to radiate exceptional beauty and sport a heart stopping figure. Biologically, women are wired to think with their hearts, blurring the lines between emotion and intellect. The most demanding and unspoken requirement of an independent escort is an iron clad ability to maintain distinction between personal and professional feelings and conduct. The task comes easier to some than to others. She must constantly check her reality to make sure that she has not lost her balance in life. The task can be quite dangerous and draining. This is one reason why many companions take breaks from their profession. They need to regroup and reclaim a sense of self. An independent escort must essentially go against her biological grain and maintain distinction between professional and personal. It is a constant psychological workout. She must always remember that her persona is not really her but a distant reflection of who she is at best. When she allows reality and fantasy to mingle, she loses control not only of herself but of her business. She gets hurt. When this happens continuously, she may grow to dislike men. See More... http://miamicitygirls.com/